Have you ever had moments in your life where you thought, “I am sick of worrying about everything!” When worries become a regular part of our lives, how do we stop?
It can be an incredibly exhausting situation and sometimes we can fall into a cycle of worry and self-pity which isn’t healthy for anyone. So how can you start to think about worries differently?
It’s important to understand that worrying will never end. Everyone has worries. In fact, our minds are conditioned to focus more on worries than on things that are going well.
“Happiness is not the absence of problems, it’s the ability to deal with them.” ― Steve Maraboli
I am going to share with you techniques that you can apply to yourself and start to see change. Change begins with you. It is 100% in your control. Dedication is a must. I recommend keeping a diary or a journal to record your progress wit how you think about problems.
The three techniques are:
- I have been here before
- Take a wider view
- Ground yourself into the present
I have been here before
Often, when we experience worry, there is a sense of deja vu. Whilst the situation might be different, we are familiar with the feelings that we are experiencing. And the fact that you are here today, you obviously overcome these feelings in the past.
“If a problem is fixable, if a situation is such that you can do something about it, then there is no need to worry. If it’s not fixable, then there is no help in worrying. There is no benefit in worrying whatsoever.” ― The Dalai Lama
Think back to what steps you took, what worked and what didn’t, and how you can apply what worked to the current worry. Perhaps, things did not work out how you had hoped in the past. That’s okay. Consider the lessons you learnt.
Take a wider view
Every situation has a silver lining but when we are overwhelmed, it is difficult to see the positives. Try thinking about the bigger aspect.
“I think that little by little I’ll be able to solve my problems and survive.”
― Frida Kahlo
Sometimes the things we worry about are in fact a small drop in our large pool of life. Sometimes worries turn out to be a blessing in disguise, or a lesson we need to learn.
Ground yourself into the present
How are you feeling right now in this very minute? How is thinking about the worrying aspect affecting you in this very moment? What is the true impact of the worry in your life right now?
“The key is this: Meet today’s problems with today’s strength. Don’t start tackling tomorrow’s problems until tomorrow. You do not have tomorrow’s strength yet. You simply have enough for today.” ― Max Lucado
Sometimes, answers to these questions can help people realize that things are actually better than they thought, or they can be motivated into action.
I hope these techniques are helpful for you. Sometimes our worries are not there to be solved, but rather, validated. Give yourself the validation you seek and maybe your worries will vanish till another day.